What Do You Need in Life to Be Happy

"No person, no place, and no thing has any ability over us, for 'we' are the simply thinkers in our mind. When we create peace and harmony and balance in our minds, we volition find it in our lives." ~Louise L. Hay

Seven years ago I felt a tangible sense of despondency about where my life was heading.

Having ended a 6-year human relationship, I found myself lone, feeling isolated, often with only a bottle of wine (or two) for visitor on a weekend. For the offset time always I wondered if I had depression.

Afterward weeks of feeling helpless and sitting on my sofa crying, I decided enough was plenty and started taking action to plough my life effectually.

In doing then I discovered the "Human Givens Bones Needs." Suddenly, everything made sense to me.

I realized I didn't have depression; I just hadn't been meeting my bones needs in a healthy and balanced fashion.

Working through the basic needs, I scored myself a number between i and ten for each, with ten being fully met.

After taking activity and pursuing a new diploma, I reflected on how much ameliorate I was meeting my basic needs for command, creativity, and stimulation, and how much happier and alive I felt as a upshot.

I as well recognized that I was coming together my need for condition in a new mode, as people were amazed when I told them what I was studying.

Seven years on, I have never forgotten the basic needs. Every 6 months I take a few hours to practise a stock cheque of my life to encounter how well I am coming together each of the needs, and where I need to take action or practise something different.

At the moment I am grooming for my third marathon, which is meeting so many of my basic needs in one hit!

People tell me how awesome it is that I am running a marathon (attention and status), I look after my body better (heed/body connection), I have a goal (purpose), and I'm doing something positive with my time (creativity, stimulation, and sense of control).

As we head into the New year, I'd invite you to take an evening, roll up warm, put on some music y'all savour, and have a stock check of your life.

Expect at each of the dissimilar needs and mark out of x (ten beingness fully met) how well you are meeting each 1, and how.

Where y'all are not meeting a need fully, don't worry. Instead, recall about what actions you lot can accept to improve this area, and write downwards some steps to achieving that.

Rather than trying to improve every surface area of your life all at once, I propose focusing kickoff on coming together one need that would make a considerable difference in your life, so moving on to another.

Like me with my marathon, you may find that while meeting one need, you terminate upwards meeting others naturally as a result.

Finally, put your stock check or action programme somewhere you can see information technology daily.

Take a Stock Cheque of Your Basic Homo Needs

1. The need for attention

We demand quality attention from the people in our lives. More and more people in the world live lonely. Unless your needs are being met elsewhere, a lack of attending tin can lead to low cocky-esteem, feelings of loneliness, and a lack of connexion.

Join a meet upwardly group, do an evening form, join a fitness grouping—anything that gets you out there and talking to similar-minded people.

two. Mind-trunk connexion

The mode we look after ourselves physically directly impacts our psychological well-being. Feed your torso proficient food and y'all'll feel skillful. (That doesn't mean pizza and wine!) Go out in the fresh air and get moving to get your serotonin and endorphins levels pumping, making you experience more live.

3. Purpose and goals

Having a purpose or goal adds meaning to your life. Sign up for a 5K charity run, take upward a dark grade, or volunteer for a local charity. Use your time to do the things you savour.

4. Connection to something greater than ourselves

A sense of connection to agreeing people or others who share your perceptions and piece of work for a common goal is important. I chose to run one of my marathons for a homeless charity, for case.

It may be being office of a group raising sensation virtually a shared cause, or working for an organization that shares your values.

5. Creativity and stimulation

Boredom and a lack of achievement tin can leave y'all feeling unsatisfied and depressed. Spending time reading well-nigh a subject that interests you, learning a new skill or arts and crafts, or doing anything that stimulates the creative part of your brain volition come across you feeling happier and more stimulated.

6. Sense of security and condom

Without a sense of security and safety y'all can feel broken-hearted. You don't accept to own your home to feel secure. Security can come from having a supportive partner and family or even changing your beliefs almost what security and rubber mean to you.

seven. Intimacy and connectedness

Information technology's important to feel that at to the lowest degree one person really knows you for who yous are. Intimacy and connection don't require a romantic partner; information technology can just exist a close relationship with someone, even your pet!

8. Sense of command

Feeling that yous accept no command in a given situation or in life can lead to feelings of hopelessness. In some cases people will over-control to compensate for feeling helpless. Trying to control people and situations yous accept no influence over will only suck your energy. Control the 1 thing you can—you lot.

9. The demand for status

Being recognized for your talents helps meet your need for condition. Accept action to do something you have always wanted to practise, such every bit a jewelry-making course, signing up to a sporting group, taking up dressmaking, or volunteering your talents where they would be well received.

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Small-scale changes in your life tin can create a big ripple effect, and, like me, you lot may exist surprised past how much happier, healthier, and alive you lot volition feel as a consequence.

About Sara Maude

Sara Maude is an international Solution Focused Psychotherapist, Hypnotherapist, EFT practitioner, and Avant-garde Theta Healer. Having worked with hundreds of clients to help them achieve their goals, she provides 1 - ane sessions in Edinburgh, Scotland, and worldwide over Skype. Visit her at saramaudehypnotherapy.com.

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